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Self-Healing. Shining My Light. A Sacred Calling.

To be the most glorious version of myself. It is the best gift I can offer to humanity. The most important and meaningful contribution I can make. I must keep focusing on my healing, growth, and transformation. No amount of … Continue reading

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The Cycle Of Abuse

“As you said, it’s a cycle. I’m getting fed up. It’s exhausting. It just keeps repeating.” My friend poured her heart out. Her words didn’t come as a surprise to me. I knew it was just a matter of time … Continue reading

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Forgiveness — A Result Of The Healing Process Rather Than The Goal Or A Prerequisite To Healing

There is a tendency for those in recovery [from toxic parents/families] to fall into the blame game — blaming the toxic parents or family for any or all unfortunate circumstances in one’s life, not taking any accountability and responsibility at … Continue reading

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Acceptance — Not Forgiveness — Is Much More Effective & Therapeutic

Forgiveness [of others], I have now come to believe, is earned. I do not believe that forgiveness is unconditional. The offender must offer a sincere apology, express and show a genuine desire to make amends, and demonstrate remorse and a … Continue reading

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A Narcissistic Mother’s Drama

When the bedroom door closes, whatever goes on is between the couple. We can never know enough to make accurate or even fair or unfair judgments and conclude why a couple split up. Both or one of them may present … Continue reading

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“She [your mother] did the best she could.”

Countless are the times when others have said, “Your mother did the best she could.” I, too, have said that. I have told myself that — in the hope of easing the pain. Somehow, though, saying that a wrongdoer did … Continue reading

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A Mother’s Betrayal. A Daughter’s Trust Issues.

When we have been lied to, especially by a loved one, the betrayal is quite deep and damaging, to begin with. Even more so when it’s a betrayal from one’s birth mother. The deep and painful sense of betrayal towards … Continue reading

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My Mother’s Involvement. Triangulation. Mediating Between My Parents.

My mother had vehemently denied it through the years — from my father and me, in particular — her ill-chosen involvement, which lasted for more than a decade. Fortunately for my siblings, they were spared from the pain of the … Continue reading

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Maternal Narcissism – A Most Apt Description Of A Mother’s Odd & Hurtful Behaviors

I had always referred to my family and home situation as abusive and dysfunctional. It wasn’t until about a decade or so ago that I came to know of another apt description other than abusive and dysfunctional — especially of … Continue reading

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“The fact remains that we are siblings.”

“The fact remains that we are siblings.” That was one of the messages that I received. It pierced right to my heart and gut! Condescending. Imposing. Guilt-tripping. Invalidating. Dismissive. Marginalizing. You may as well replace the word ‘siblings’ with ‘family,’ … Continue reading

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