The Christmas holidays are presumed to be filled with festivities. A time to rejoice. People are expected to be in a jolly mood.
But not everyone is in a festive mood. Not everyone has a reason to celebrate.
There are those who are deeply engulfed in grief. Those who have lost loved ones — be it to COVID, other deadly diseases, accidents, or natural causes.
There are also those who are alone during the holidays. Those who are away or estranged from their families — be it by their choice or circumstances.
I don’t want to sound insensitive, but I am grateful that I have long ago let go of celebrating Christmas because I do not wish to be a participant anymore in the commercialism that envelops and typifies the season.
It must have been a decade since I joined any celebration. Christmas day is now an ordinary and stress-free day for me — thankfully.
For those, though, who are coping with loneliness and aloneness or stricken with grief and dealing with any kind of loss, here is a compilation of resources [articles, videos, etc.] to help comfort you.
“’The holidays are times spent with our loved ones.’ This has been imprinted on our psyche from a young age. Holidays mark the passage of time in our lives. They are part of the milestones we share with each other and they generally represent time spent with family. But since holidays are for being with those we love the most, how on earth can anyone be expected to cope with them when a loved one has died? For many people, this is the hardest part of grieving, when we miss our loved ones even more than usual. How can we celebrate togetherness when there is none?”
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[About the Author/Organization Founder – David Kessler is the world’s foremost expert on grief and loss. His experience with thousands of people on the edge of life and death has taught him the secrets to living a happy and fulfilled life, even afterlife’s tragedies. He is the author of six books, including the new bestselling book, “Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief.” He coauthored two books with Elisabeth Kubler Ross, including On Grief and Grieving updated her 5 stages for grief. His first book, “The Needs of The Dying” received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.]
SPEAKING GRIEF DOCUMENTARY
Produced by WPSU, this documentary explores the transformative experience of losing a family member in a grief-avoidant society. It validates grief as a normal, healthy part of the human experience rather than a problem that needs to be “fixed.”
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HOLIDAY EMPOWERMENT WORKBOOK by Bethany Webster
Bethany Webster teaches a 7-step “roadmap” for how to navigate the process of healing the Mother Wound through cultivating a relationship with an Inner Mother.
Her work aims to address a crucial gap in our understanding of women’s psychology and empowerment by comprehensively defining the Mother Wound, how it manifests in women’s lives and the path to healing and transformation.
To obtain a copy of the workbook, you must join Bethany’s private Facebook group, Discovering the Inner Mother.
“It may surprise you, but there are strategies to get through the season.
Next to Mother’s Day — which brings a very special kind of pain — the holiday season fills many adults with dread, especially if their relationship with their mother has been fraught, emotionally painful, or downright damaging. It’s the blitz of enforced holiday cheer, and all those photographs of smiling and happy families, that make the daughter feel, once again, like she’s the only girl on the planet whose mother doesn’t love her. It reawakens her sense of shame at being singled out in this way, even if she is an adult and, in fact, has a family of her own.”
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[About the Author – Peg Streep is the author of “Daughter Detox: Recovering from an Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life.”]
ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN: MANAGING CHRISTMAS DAY by Stand Alone
This event has just ended. I’m not sure if Stand Alone will post it on their website. This workshop was intended to help those who are estranged from a parent or sibling to find support with Christmas Day.
“Christmas Day can be one of the hardest days of the year for people who are estranged from family. There are lots of decisions about how to spend the day, find support and how to look after your mental health. Although the festive period in 2020 will be different, it will still bring up challenges and difficulties.”
DEALING WITH GRIEF DURING THE HOLIDAY INTERVIEW WITH MEGAN DEVINE
Megan Devine is a psychotherapist, writer, grief advocate, communication expert, pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence, and author of “It’s OK That You’re Not OK.”
“Part of your family wants traditions to stay exactly the same, others want to change everything. Conflicting desires, broken hearts, lots of attention when you’d rather just hide in your blanket fort until the whole thing is over — it’s too much.”
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GRIEVER’S GUIDE TO THE HOLIDAYS
A conversation with grief and loss leaders Alice Forneret, Chanel Reynolds, Megan Devine, and Rebecca Soffer who share guidance and advice for self-care and caring for others.