At a cafe that I frequent, I was seated next to a table of middle-aged men whose topic of conversation — suicide — is quite timely, with the observance of World Suicide Prevention Day coming up.
I was quick to judge them for being so judgmental of those who commit suicide. Such selfish, self-centered and arrogant lot, I thought to myself.
Why do I say that?
Well, their main argument is they see those who commit suicide as SELFISH because they are not thinking of the loved ones they are leaving behind, and the agony that their suicidal act would cause them.
I found it offensive, selfish, and lacking in compassion to hear that the pain and agony of the one committing suicide was not being considered in the equation!
I was tempted to butt in and ask, “Who are we considering selfish?”
But I didn’t. I wouldn’t.
Instead, I chose to practice empathy and compassion. They just don’t know any better.
And I wish they do. I fervently wish they do.
And I remember writing this post around the time of Robin Williams’ suicide in August 2014 — which I’m re-blogging as my contribution to the conversation of increasing awareness of suicide prevention — in the hope that conversations such as what I overheard would occur less frequently. That we all become better informed and educated. That we are not quick to judge or condemn those who have chosen to intentionally cause their own deaths.
Because the truth of the matter is, no one truly knows what’s going on in the suffering individual’s psyche. No one knows what is their Soul evolutionary path.
Death — especially suicide and abortion — is a complex topic that many of us are grappling coming to terms with.
Admittedly, I was quick to judge when I learned that Robin committed suicide. Thankfully, I was also just as quick to catch myself. I opted, instead, to do a deeper inquiry.
And thankfully, I now know better. And I know that the one and only thing that I, that we can and must offer and practice is — Empathy and Compassion.
Why do souls commit suicide? Is it part of their spiritual contract?
Do they know before they incarnated that they would end their earthly experience in such a manner?
Is a suicidal person sinful and less spiritual? Is suicide a sin?
What can I, we, the world do to assist those who are suicidal? What is our responsibility?
How can we heal from the pain and deep wounds of losing a loved one who committed suicide?
In Your Soul’s Gift: The Healing Power of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born, author and psychotherapist Robert Schwartz, PhD explains why souls would, before being born, plan to have specific experiences such as abusive relationships, abortion, incest, rape, mental illness and suicide.
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