While looking deeply into it, I didn’t resist or question it. Over the years, I’ve learned to just allow whatever energies are flowing through me — be it personal or from the collective. I’ve learned that fighting only results in more chaos. Oh, I’ve had my fair share of those!
I shared what I was going through with someone whose immediate response was to negate my experience. Yikes!
She offered a different perspective. Hers. Sounding like she knows exactly what it is that I’m going through and has authority over it. Over me. As if she is an expert on the inner workings of my Soul. As if she has all the answers.
To think, I wasn’t particularly looking for answers. I was merely sharing where I was in my journey.
I wasn’t looking for validation with my sharing either. I’m clear about that. But I most certainly didn’t appreciate being invalidated and dishonored.
I don’t believe anyone wants to be invalidated. And who are we, what right do we have to invalidate or dishonor another’s experience?
But many operate this way, especially those who are not that self-aware — and that’s the majority of humanity, sadly.
Honoring One Another
Be it an accomplishment or adversity, we must simply honor that.
We must celebrate the other’s accomplishment with a simple, “Oh, well done! I’m happy for you! Congratulations!”
And mean it.
When someone is going through a challenge, we must extend compassion. We can do it with a simple yet meaningful and deeply touching, “Oh, It’s unfortunate that you’re going through such a difficult time.”
And again, mean it.
And in both situations, we must embrace the other warmly and lovingly.
The problem is we don’t mean it when we are driven by our wounded selves. When we allow our limited personality consciousness — rather than our Divine Consciousness — to lead our choices, our resultant actions or utterances are aimed at making the other feel wrong. Inferior. To make others feel less than. Less than themselves — and less than ourselves.
But that’s superficial.
The truth of the matter is it is ourselves who are inferior and less than those we put down and invalidate. When we reject the other, we are, in truth, rejecting ourselves.
As human beings operating from our fragmented self, we aim for separateness, albeit unconsciously. Instead of joining with another, we push them away and create more distance and disunity.
And that is not what feeds our Soul. That is not what brings Joy. That is not what brightens the world.
Admittedly, the opposing energies between this individual and me, this individual whose response to my sharing of my experience was clearly an attempt to put me down — and feel less than — jolted me.
Albeit only for a brief while — thankfully.
I’m grateful that I was able to let the dishonoring energies slide off my back — much quicker than before.
I could have immediately doubted myself. I could have quickly given my power away — as I would have in the beginning stages of my Self-mastery.
I’m grateful that our interaction gave me the opportunity to stay in my center and in my truth.
“No, that’s not what it is,” was my curt reply. I didn’t second-guess myself and spoke my truth — and with much conviction.
And I didn’t feel the need or the pull to explain myself or explain further what it was precisely I was going through. I knew it wasn’t a good use of my energies. It had become so clear to me that her only desire was to make me feel wrong. And I wasn’t going to give her that satisfaction.
Need for Approval No More
I left that interaction more empowered. More grounded. More sure of who and what I AM and what it is that I’m going through — even if there was still some uncertainty. At the time, at least.
I’m grateful for the certainty in the uncertainty.
I’m grateful for my certainty that what I was going through was simply an experience. An opportunity for my Soul growth.
I’m grateful to be content — with my contentment and otherwise. And I’m grateful to be content regardless what others’ views are.
My experience is none of their business, and their opinion about it is none of mine.
I’m grateful that the interaction took me a step closer to letting go of the need for others’ approval. I don’t need her approval or anyone else’s.
That, I know with much certainty and clarity.
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