When I read a material, when I listen to someone, when I’m in a place, and the overall feeling that I get is expansive, joyful, and peaceful, I have aligned with Divinely guided information. The material or location matches my vibrational frequency.
I feel like I come alive!
I heave a deep, gratifying sigh. There’s a lightness in my chest.
I experience goosebumps. I gesture a “thumbs up.”
I have no desire to be anywhere else or to read or listen to anything else or speak with anyone else. Whatever desire I may have is that of wanting to share the feeling with others. To spread the joy. Be more helpful and make others feel good.
These are the ways through which my body validates and confirms the authenticity and truthfulness in what I read or encounter.
An Attempt to Dim the Light
On the other hand, when the overall feeling is constrictive and contracting, when I feel like I’m so small or worthless — alright, no one can really make me feel less than without my permission or unless I, subconsciously, already feel that way, to begin with — but when there’s a condescending tone in an attempt to make me feel less than or diminished while making them be above the rest, no doubt the message is self-based — as opposed to Self. Tainted with falsehood and hypocrisy.
The message or creation is contaminated with the individual’s unresolved issues and inner demons — usually unacknowledged and repressed.
My body, likewise, gives me the signals.
I feel a knot in my gut.
My body tenses up. My shoulders stiffen.
I find myself raising one of my eyebrows. Or wrinkling both of them.
I feel heaviness in my chest. My head starts to throb.
I hear myself say, “I don’t think so….” as I make an immediate moral judgment. (I do!)
I feel a flare of adrenaline, firing my brain to act.
If I’m sitting down, I find myself straightening up my back as I move away — from the laptop screen or individual. I keep a distance. I want to shield myself and others from the person, material or place. I want to run as quickly and as far away as possible.
My Personal State of Being Vis-a-vis Ability to Discern
When I’m grounded and balanced, I can quickly recognize the falsities or genuineness; when I’m off-centered, discerning can be quite confusing and challenging.
This is why when I have this feeling of wanting to stay away from the source of my discomfort — material, person or place — I don’t immediately rule out the possibility that I may be the one coming from a space of falsity or inauthenticity. Maybe I’m getting triggered, and something is coming up for me which needs to be transmuted.
I use the time and space away to self-reflect and carry out self-clearing exercises. To discern. To determine if what I initially sensed is valid and accurate.
Disengaging gives me the opportunity to re-align myself. To align with and come back to my truth.
At times, I’d seek the opinion of others. This isn’t so much because I don’t trust myself — although overcoming self-doubt is a lesson that is taking me many years — decades even — to master.
I consult with others just to make sure that I’m maintaining objectivity. That I am, in fact, discerning accurately.
Interestingly enough, evaluating other people’s inputs and mapping them against mine is, in itself, a practice of discernment.
Is Face-to-face Necessary?
I used to believe that to really know an individual, to really see their authentic self requires a face-to-face interaction. That we cannot just rely on their online presence. That it’s very limiting and even misleading.
I no longer subscribe to that belief.
As I master my skill of sensing subtle energies — and perhaps as I spend more time in cyberspace and have more online interactions — it is no longer as critical for me to see the person’s face or hear their voice in person or be physically in the place for me to discern their authenticity — or lack thereof — or how closely aligned — or misaligned — we are with each other.
As with mastering any skill, it takes practice. And the element of trust plays a key role.
Interestingly — synchronistically — not long after I published an earlier post on deception and manipulation, the materials which I’ve come across cyberspace talk about the same theme of authenticity. Of being real. And they’re published within days apart only!
Even the issue taken up at the October 4 Philippine Senate hearing is how to stop the proliferation of ‘fake news.’ Bloggers vs. journalists. Do bloggers have less responsibility than journalists in disseminating truth in information? Should the responsibility to discern the truth be left with the readers?
This, as the opportunities for me to strengthen my muscle of discerning and trusting continue to show up again so pronouncedly in my life (online and in person). A clear indication that the Universe is calling my attention. The reminders and validation are so in my face!
In my previous post, I talked about how “I continue to be wary when I encounter self-proclaimed and self-aggrandized ‘Masters,’ ‘Gurus,’ Spiritual ‘Teachers.’
Especially in cyberspace.
Information on spirituality and enlightenment, spiritual teachings, channelled messages, et al — they’re now readily accessible and affordable. In fact, availability and affordability have become less of an issue. Much of what is being shared is free. Often, I find that there’s too much information.
The issue comes down to discernment.
I’m in no position to tell anyone how they, how you can determine truth from falsity. After all, how a material, person, or place feels to another is unique to every individual.
The circumstances in our lives, our developmental phase, the stage of our soul growth, the skills and qualities that we’ve signed up to master, the stage, state, and level of our consciousness — all these influence how and what we determine to be right and true to us. How aligned or misaligned we are from the material or environment.
No one can claim what is true and what is Truth — relative or absolute — for the individual except the individual.
What I’d like to share in closing is the work of American psychotherapist and author Mariana Caplan, Ph.D., “Eyes Wide Open: Cultivating Discernment on the Spiritual Path (2009).” I came across her book several years ago when I wasn’t as skillful in discernment.
“Developing discernment doesn’t prevent us from making mistakes, but it does help us learn life’s lessons more clearly and quickly, turn challenges into opportunities, and avoid unnecessary obstacles. Discernment teaches us to live well, and when we die, we can do so feeling I have lived a good life. I have gained as much self-awareness as I was capable of, and I have fulfilled a purpose on earth….Discernment is required at every turn of life and at every juncture of spiritual development. The degree to which we are awake, conscious, and discerning in our experience and choices is the extent to which we can consciously participate in our soul’s unfolding.” ~ Mariana Caplan, Ph.D., p. xxv, 255.