I’m enjoying my quiet time at the poolside. Reading. Writing. I have the place to myself, woo-hoo! 😀
Not for long, though.
A guy who is either in his late teens or early 20s arrives and occupies the table next to mine.
There are at least four other tables that are farther away from me. Why choose the one closest to me? I immediately feel my space encroached! 😮 😮 😮
It doesn’t take long for my muscles to start tensing. My pulse quickens. I momentarily stop my writing and watch his moves as my eyes narrow and I clench my jaw.
He calls someone on his cell phone. He puts the other party on speakerphone loud enough for me to hear what the other person is saying. Like, do I care?!?! 😮
I continue to follow his every move as he paces across the clubhouse and continues what is supposed to be their private — yet attention-grabbing — conversation. Maybe, that is his intention, eh?!?! To seek attention? 😮
I now sternly stare at him as my irritation builds up inside of me.
Why can you not just listen to the other party without having to put them on speakerphone? Why?!?!?! What poor manners!!! How inconsiderate! Disrespectful!
Sadly, though, it is a behavior that’s commonly displayed by the majority of the Filipinos.
As I said in my earlier post, such behaviors are one of my greatest pet peeves. They also happen to be one of my biggest growth opportunities. At least, that’s how I’m choosing to view it.
I switch between continuing my reading and writing and awaiting the scenario that’s unfolding. A scenario that I’m not exactly pleased to be a part of. I most certainly wasn’t expecting this. I had thought that I’d have the place all to myself. I had thought that I’d have the chance to enjoy the peace and quiet.
It is evident to me, though, that the Universe has something else in store for me. Something so far from what I had planned and envisioned.
Soon, their party of six arrives. Young. Millenials. You know, the entitled, narcissistic ones. Oh, I certainly don’t miss a heartbeat to judge them, eh?! 😉
Suddenly, I have the strong desire to be somewhere else. There goes my peace and quiet! There goes my solitude! 😮
I want to pack up and head back to my unit. But I quickly catch myself and stop taking the victim path — thankfully!
I opt to be in control instead of allowing the situation to control me. I choose to take charge rather than let my disappointment and irritation get the better of me.
“You can have a say on this, Nadine. You can do this. You can make this work to your favor. Stop resisting. Be flexible and adaptable. Allow. Flow,” I direct myself.
When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.
There’s no way I’ll be able to make orange juice out of lemons, right? No way. Impossible.
Much as I prefer orange juice now, lemonade is what I can make out of what’s being presented to me.
This is one opportunity when my determination will just get me in trouble. Forget orange juice; make lemonade.
Life is, after all, how we make it. Indeed.
How can I grow from this situation? How can I make this work to my favor? How can I create Joy out of this apparent disappointingly unexpected situation?
As I wonder and ponder, I put on my headset — with a tinge of resentment, admittedly.
“I can do this,” I convince myself. I can practice being in crowded, noisy areas and still maintain my peace and equilibrium — even for just a short period of time. After all, I’ve recently made it one of my goals.
And here is the Universe responding. Conspiring.
And I’m able to co-exist with them, thankfully, albeit for a few minutes. 🙂
The group obviously has no intention of holding a [serious] meeting or having some quiet time. None at all.
I find this out sooner than later because not long after, they start playing upbeat music. Dance music. And in Filipino fashion, loudly! Like they’re having a party!
Breathe, Nadine. Patience.
Before long, one guy starts demonstrating dance steps.
Ah, a dance rehearsal. That’s what they’re having.
I have conflicted emotions.
A part of me feels annoyed. But the better, the wiser part of me chooses otherwise.
I decide to stop reading and writing. I look at them, smiling. I watch them as I tell myself, “Just enjoy the moment. Be in it and take in their joyful energies.”
Perhaps sensing my interest, one of them who is also an occupant in the residential complex where I’m staying, asks me if I want to join them!
“Oh, how gracious of her,” I think to myself — in all humility, admittedly, especially after my initial annoyance and judgmental thoughts of them. Oooops! Sorry!! 😦 😦
My irritation evaporates in an instant! It is now replaced with a desire to join them. I miss dancing, after all — be it with a partner or with a group.
But it is now close to lunch time. I’m beginning to get hungry, and I have yet to prepare my meal.
As I head back to my unit, I ask myself if I should have just joined them.
Should I have just been more spontaneous and jumped at the opportunity that the Universe was presenting to me?
No regrets, though.
I chose what I felt was best for me — at that moment. I elected to enjoy these millennials in high spirits enjoying themselves. To relish the moment.
And I did. I enjoyed watching them. Thoroughly! 😀
I immediately feel a shift. And I’m so grateful for such a gift! 🙂
Imagine how resentful I would have been had I chosen to quickly pack up and take off? I’m sure to still be sulking, anxious for Monday morning — and as it is a Saturday, that means two nights to wait it out — when I can ‘report the incident’ to the administration office. I’d have become one Grumpy Old Woman! Easily! 😀 😀 😀
Fortunately, an idea came to me as soon as I arrive in my unit. And I can’t wait — excitedly — for Monday morning when I can inquire from the administration office.
Zumba dance lessons at the clubhouse for the residents! How about arranging for that, eh?
Now, I can’t wait for Monday morning!
And the Universe Continues to Conspire…
Come Monday morning, as I take my early morning walk around the compound, I see their group at the poolside once more. I just know that the Universe is validating my idea. I just know I’m going to manifest it.
I don’t second guess myself and follow the nudge.
I approach them and ask them if we can arrange for regular Zumba dance classes. To my delight, my fellow resident — and her other friends in the group — like the same thing! Neat, eh?
I talk to the property administrative supervisor who readily agrees to my proposal! Turns out — serendipitously again — a couple of other residents had already earlier inquired and requested for Zumba dance classes! 😀 How cool is that, eh? Even the staff at the administration office like to participate! 🙂
I report the exciting news to the group who are just as ecstatic as I am! 😀
The instructor will not be available until after the group’s performance which would be in the coming weekend. Meanwhile, they ask me to join their rehearsals later in the day — much to my delight, quite naturally! 🙂
And that afternoon, I sure have the time of my life! I dance joyfully as I look forward to more days of dancing!!! 😀
That guy showing up with his loud phone conversation sure is one rare moment for which I’m ever grateful that my space has been invaded and my quiet time disrupted.
Otherwise, I most certainly will not be singing now or dancing to the tune of,
“Now I’ve had the time of my life…..” 😀 😀 😀
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