Why am I looking at how less or more evolved other people are compared to me?
Why the need — for them or me — to measure up? Why look down on those who are ‘not as advanced’ in their spirituality? Or be intimidated by the ‘more advanced’ ones?
Why the need to assess? Why compete? Who says there is a race?
It is one of the challenges that I’ve had to deal with. Dealing with — still. Thankfully, to a much lesser degree now.
I’ve read up on the subject. A lot.
I’ve watched videos and listened to podcasts. Countless.
The majority helps explain why this is my experience.
However, I have yet to come across materials that help explain the how. How to get out of it. How to get out of comparison mode. Completely. Fully. Truly.
How do I?
How do I stop myself from seeing that one level of consciousness is ‘better’ than the other?
How do I disentangle from believing that one phase, a more ‘advanced’ stage means that one is more spiritual?
How do I fully embrace the idea that each one of us is simply an expression of the Divine in human form? In whatever shape or form that expression is. That no matter how I perceive that expression, it is the ‘perfect’ manifestation. How do I truly embody that concept?
Irrespective of at what point they are on the Ascension Path, such expression — as unique as every being is — is, in fact, an essential piece that completes the puzzle.
That nothing is ever wasted or useless.
That everyone is serving their unique purpose. Contributing to the Evolutionary Process.
A shift in my perception. I know that is what’s required.
Are there techniques, tools, and practices that I can employ?
Need for Approval
I’ve had a deep need for approval stemming from my childhood.
The rejection that I faced from the moment that I was born etched a deep, deep wound in my psyche. One that I continue to address to this day even as I’m in the middle of my fifth decade of earthly experience.
It is this need for approval that’s causing me to compare myself to others.
And perhaps there will always be such moments of comparison and competition. Perhaps my hurting, rejected little Nadine will always be pulling the skirt of Adult Nadine when she starts to feel less than another. Unworthy.
And when those moments come, perhaps all that I need to do is to hold the space and allow a conversation to take place between the Wise One Within and the Hurting Little Nadine.
To acknowledge the hurt that my Little Nadine is feeling.
To give her pain a voice and space.
To be heard. Honored. To make my Little Nadine feel valued and worthy.
Must I actually aim for being free of all my insecurities and sense of unworthiness? Is that even realistic?
Must I instead honor and embrace each moment of unworthiness and just use the opportunity to shift from feeling insecure to being inspired, to emulate what I find admirable in another?
Everyone Is A Unique Expression Of The Divine
We all have our unique gifts and abilities. We cannot and never will be like someone else.
We must not be lured by the temptation of comparison. We must recognize it as soon as the need to compare ourselves to others starts to lurk its ugly head into our awareness.
We must stop it at once. We must quickly catch ourselves.
The only comparison we must make is that of where we are in relation to where we were.
How much of the qualities of Compassion, Generosity, Integrity, Humility, Kindness, Gentleness, Trustworthiness, Gratefulness, Tactfulness and other Divine virtues are we demonstrating now?
How less reactive and more responsive are we now to situations that used to easily trigger us and quickly bring us to defensive mode?
How much mindfulness are we now employing in every moment?
How often are we able to come from a space of Love instead of Fear? How quickly are we able to bring ourselves back to that space of Love as soon as we realize that we are operating from Fear-based Consciousness?
How aligned are we with the Divine? Do we easily recognize the energies of misalignment from Source? How are we able to readily re-align ourselves when this happens?
The answers to these and similar questions as they apply to our own experiences — not someone else’s — are the only answers that we must be concerned with.
How others are progressing on their path is none of our business; it is theirs and theirs only.
I don’t need society’s — or anyone’s — approval for the progress that I’m making on my journey. No one also needs my approval for theirs. No one needs anyone’s approval.
What is needed is respect.
Respect where we all are in this Mystery that is Life.
Honor each other’s unique process.
And whether or not we are able to emulate the skills that others possess, we must celebrate their success — regardless how such success looks like or translates to. No matter how ‘grand’ or ‘insignificant’ it may be. (Again, by whose standards?)
We must allow — and encourage — others to shine their Light — as brightly as they possibly can.
And we must be grateful that their Light is shining upon our world.
That’s what we need to do.
That’s all that we must do — me and you.
That’s what the world needs — now, more than ever — if we want to create and usher in The New.
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