A reader’s comment to an earlier post prompted me to write this one instead of responding to her directly. She wrote how inspired she was by what I’m going through and what I’m sharing.
I’m so appreciative of such comments because they make me feel so validated — that I AM taking the rightful steps and accomplishing my vision and mission of being a channel for healing and transformation through my writing and sharing.
As I wrote in that post, I needed to take a leap of faith. It is what my life, my journey, my path has been made of — leaps of faith. Facing the unknowns. Moving out of my comfort zones. Stirring away and removing myself from unloving and unhealthy relationships, places and situations. Taking the path less travelled.
It does take an enormous amount of courage to get out of our comfort zone and status quo. It is a collective fear — our fear of the unknown.
But isn’t that where our growth comes from — when we face our fear and conquer it? Isn’t that what victors do — as opposed to victims who allow the situations and circumstances to dictate and rule their lives, preventing them from living a Life of Joy?
And a Life of Joy, I have learned, is born out of my deep love and respect for myself — nothing else. It was one of my biggest takeaways when I was introduced to the concept of Re-parenting the Inner Child in 1999. It has been an invaluable tool in my way towards wholeness and balance.
Healing, nurturing, re-parenting the Inner Child is an act of deep Love — of one’s self more than and above any other.
But it is an act that not many are comfortable with. To love one’s self, after all, has left many of us confused as we have been made to believe that the ultimate act of love is one that is selfless.
On the contrary — and thankfully — I have learned and realized that self-love, not self-sacrifice, is the ultimate act of Love.
Loving one’s self is what will allow us to practice the universal teaching of doing to others what we want others to do to us.
When we love ourselves truly and fully, we can do nothing else except to love others truly and fully as well.
We cannot give what we do not have. We cannot give Love when we do not have Love. We cannot give Love when we have not embodied Love.
We need to be the Love and the Light for us to uplift others. And it is when we uplift others and celebrate their joys and successes that our Light shines brighter as well. Others’ Light shines brighter, too. The world becomes a joyful haven. It is how we create Heaven on Earth.
It is why I so love this part in Marianne Williamson’s famous quote,
“We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”
I have dimmed my Light and allowed others to dim it for a very long time. Thankfully, not anymore.
My deep Love and Respect for myself and my commitment to shine my Light led me to all the choices and decisions that I made in my life, to where I AM now — a place, a space, a path that I will not exchange for anything.
Many of those choices — the empowering ones — have been quite unpopular because they went against tradition, culture, society, mainstream. They have resulted in a radical shift in my lifestyle and relationships including those with my family of origin.
But the Path of the Heart is not a popularity contest.
It isn’t meant to gain approval from others. At the end of the day, at the end of it all, it is between me and my God — whoever and whatever that God is to me, and however I perceive or choose to address Her/Him/It.
I’ve also realized that re-parenting my little Nadine is not simply a step or a phase in my journey. It is the journey — my journey, at least.
I’ve written quite extensively about the inner child and my childhood wounds in this site here, here, here, and here. There are also lots of materials and information about the inner child elsewhere on the internet.
My little Nadine has been gagged and kept mum for so long.
And it was a leap of faith that helped me take a significant step in my path of healing and nurturing her — of giving her the chance to be heard and not only seen — through writing and blogging.
I had a lot of fears, admittedly.
How do I handle the criticisms and judgments? After all, they do come with the territory and the world of writing and blogging.
How can I face my fear of rejection and being questioned? What if they don’t support my points-of-view and opinions?
My wounded little Nadine was, without doubt, seeking for approval and acceptance — two of my unmet childhood needs. And my fears were too intense and deeply-rooted to easily dismiss.
But we cannot heal the pain or face the fear when we choose to go around it or turn away from it. The only way to heal is to face it and to go through it. Go through the pain; Go through the fear.
So, I took that leap of faith when I created and launched this blog site. I saw a door, opened it, and walked through it — even if I didn’t know where it was leading. And I’m so glad I did!
How can I overcome my fear of being judged and condemned if I continue to hide my Light? Why keep my Truth only to myself? How can I finally be heard if I do not speak my Truth? Why continue to keep mum and gag myself — as I have since childhood?
Nowadays, admittedly, my little Nadine still feels rejected when I do not receive as many ‘likes’ and comments as I had hoped. My little Nadine still pouts and sulks.
And I simply give her the rightful space and loving permission to do so. This, as I continue to write and to share.
It is how I heal and grow. It is how I love myself and how I inspire others.
And thanks to this reader’s recent comment, I AM reminded of how much courage, dedication and commitment it takes to nurture my inner child and love myself. That it is an on-going process. That it isn’t a one-stop shop or quick-fix solution — as is what the majority of humanity nowadays is wont to believe with its prevalent easy, quick and instant mentality.
But the act of self-love, the Path of the Heart is precisely that — a path. A journey —not a destination.
And it is from that space of deep love for myself that I will continue to write, share and inspire — as I heal and evolve, as others heal and evolve. It is what will continue to lead me to what I believe each one of us is also aiming for — to come Home to the Self and Be One with the Divine.
There are countless ways through which we can shine our Light and be an inspiration. How are you inspiring others?
😀 ⭐ ❤ ⭐ 😀
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