Trapped Fear, Trapped In Fear: Healing Of My Father Wound

As I stand frozen in fear, I experience a loosening of the bladder.

I pee in my underwear.

Wait a minute…..

This is deep. This feels soooo familiar. I’ve had this bodily response. Something’s being triggered. My memory….my body’s memory.


This is huge.

In my earlier post, I shared that I was tasked to deliver a much-needed sensitive piece of news to my friend —

Your husband is an alcoholic.”

I accomplished that mission. The purpose has been fulfilled.


Is that it? Is that all there is to it? Was that traumatic encounter that I had with my friend’s husband simply meant to make me an instrument for my friend’s wake-up call?

Undeniably not. Not from how my body responded.

This is huge — not only for my friend but me as well.

That encounter — so brief yet terrifying as it was — awakened the memory of my fear of my father’s rage.  It was how I, we — my siblings and I — would respond each time we would witness our father’s deeply-rooted anger or be at its receiving end.

Violence. Intrusion. Invasion of privacy. Overstepping boundaries. Disrespect. Intimidation. Attacking. Displaced anger. Rage.

Oh no…here I go again with these all too familiar energies and themes.

I’ve put up with them for the longest time — as a child, an adolescent, even as an adult…

Here I am, in my 50s, attracting and encountering the same energies.

Surely, another layer is being peeled away for deeper healing and cleansing.

I froze in fear as I had become the recipient of my friend’s husband’s attacking energy. I couldn’t utter a word as I felt and saw the look in his eyes.

I’ve seen that look before. The glaring look. The look of hostility. Fierceness. Rage.

The look that I’ve seen in my father. The same look. The same energy. Many times over.

The look and the energy that would leave me frightened and peeing in my underwear each time. Feeling helpless. Trapped.

Trapped in fear.

I was trapped in fear, and that fear has been trapped in me. It has been deeply embedded in every cell of my body.

And that fear has been awakened during that recent frightening encounter with my friend’s husband. That fear is now being brought to the surface for yet another layer of healing of my father wound.

I have just come out of my most pivotal astrological Chiron Return phase that I have written about extensively in this site.

(Chiron, the ‘Wounded Healer’ represents our core wound. Chiron Return is when Chiron “returns” to its original placement where it was — house and planet — when we were born.  We experience this phase when we reach the age of 49 to 51 or thereabouts. It is the time when we wrap up the issues that are related to our core wound and make peace with it. As our focus shifts away from the wound per se to the gift underneath, we determine how healing from the wound can help others. In my natal chart, Chiron is in Pisces and in my fourth house, the house associated with our roots and origins, home base, family in general, father image and relationship to the real father.)

So, how do I handle such an energy now? How do I deal with it now?

Am I going to allow myself to be intimidated and silenced? Again? Will I allow myself to be simply frightened and be gagged? Again?

Or will I continue the new pattern that I’ve started? The pattern of asserting myself. Of speaking up. Being clear about my boundaries. Ensuring that other people honor and respect them.

I may have been instrumental in making my friend finally realize and admit her husband’s alcoholism.  It may have been my mission; It may have been the purpose.

But that wasn’t just the purpose of that encounter that left me petrified. It wasn’t the only purpose.

My friend and her husband may now have an enormous challenge to face. After all, battling with alcoholism — both for the one dealing with it as well as for their loved ones — is one of the most difficult challenges to face.  Sure, his alcohol addiction may be deep. Their task at hand may be huge.

But so is my father wound.  So is the fear that’s been buried in my cellular memory.

The wound… The fear….

It is huge. It is deep.

But it certainly is addressable. It certainly can be dealt with. It can be healed. It can be released.

And I AM healing. I AM releasing. I AM releasing the fear. I AM healing from it.

Dear Fear,

Thank you for calling my attention and coming to my awareness. I believe you have now served your purpose, and it is now time for you to go. You no longer need to be imprisoned. We no longer need to be each other’s prisoner. Let us now set each other free. I am now setting you free.  

😀 😀

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I find much joy & fulfillment in sharing my experiences & insights through writing & blogging. I created the site, ALIGNING WITH TRUTH as a virtual center for healing where I share my thoughts & reflections, as well as the tools & resources that are helping me as I move along the path of awakening & coming home to the Self. As I live in joy & align with Truth, I AM shining my Light which is how I contribute to the planetary & humanity ascension. Brightest & Magical Blessings!!! Om Shanti. Namaste...💗💖💜Nadine Marie💜💖💗
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10 Responses to Trapped Fear, Trapped In Fear: Healing Of My Father Wound

  1. Beautifully written is your experience… And the energies within March right now is I feel allowing you to face those fears and become stronger for them.. Letting them go and freeing yourself once and for all..

    This too has been a strange month for myself.. It seems we both had past debris we each needed to re-surface to deal with. For me it was the death of my Aunt, who was like a second mother to me…
    My own Mother didn’t speak for 10 yrs prior to her passing… I had grieved or so I thought her loss 10 yrs before she died, so when she did pass, the grief I don’t think I ever let out…
    My Aunts passing at the end of January brought back the grief.. and also unlocked passed deeply buried sorrow and pain..

    I will take your words with me… As I set myself free… Many thanks for sharing your thoughts here Nadine Marie,
    Love and Blessings as you begin stronger your journey of the I AM ..
    Sue ❤

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    • Thank you Sue. The energies of March are certainly potent for integration and transformation for those of who are ready and who choose such a path.

      Like you, I have also learned that grieving and healing isn’t a one-stop shop. It is a process. We peel away one layer at a time. We dig as deep as we are able and capable to handle at the time — whatever we are ready for. Until we are in a position to integrate and unlock again and peel away another layer…. And we do get stronger each time….

      I’m happy and thankful that my sharing resonated with you Sue. Many thanks too for stopping by and taking time to share your journey.

      We truly all are in this together! Blessed be. 😀 ⭐ ❤ ⭐ 😀

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  2. kp says:

    Powerful post….facing such deep fear takes incredible courage…good for you for helping your friend and continuing to heal a deep wound within your self. Thank you for sharing. Kim

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    • Thanks Kim. I know…what a powerful way for truth to be revealed and deep-seated wounds to be healed! 🙂 Thank you for stopping by and taking time to comment. Blessed be. 😀 ⭐ ❤ ⭐ 😀


  3. It’s amazing, isn’t it Nadine Marie, how that ‘trapped fear’ that you so eloquently describe can be ‘triggered’ by an interaction many years later, perhaps when we’re strong enough to face it down differently? I know from my own experiences, too, that some of our innate gifts get trapped along with that fear in those ‘freeze’ moments you describe. Wishing you grace as you navigate the rememberings. Love, Jamie

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    • Yes, Jamie. I sure am being presented with the opportunity to deal with it differently. I needed to be ready — and as you said, strong enough — to respond differently. To face it. Thank you for your well wishes. I will certainly take that to ❤ as I unravel the hidden innate gifts! Thanks again for musing with me… Blessed be. 😀 ⭐ ❤ ⭐ 😀


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