Being A Container: Holding Space For Others

I was so wiped out since Saturday, the 20th, immediately following my last post! Several factors contributed.

The stress that I had been going through with the resort incident-cum-growth-opportunity which I wrote about here, here and here.

My detox program that went bad and which I chose to discontinue, naturally. I had intended to de-stress, but it even added to the stress! To make matters worse, while I was attempting to recuperate, there were conflicting energies between me and the doctor who supervised (‘mis-supervised?!?!’) the program — primarily around spiritual beliefs. It obviously aggravated my already wiped out condition! Yikes! O_o

The holidays. Christmas is a major holiday in the Philippines. The biggest! With much relief and gratefulness though, I do not celebrate it anymore. However, being highly sensitive makes it so difficult to not be affected by the stressful collective energy! I’m not in Sugar Beach at the moment. I took a trip to the closest major city where I was to do my aborted detox program. So, the holiday stress is even more intense and easily felt here.  Yikes again! O_o

Solar flare activity. A  big X-class (X1.8) solar flare on the 20th — a giant eruption! — and several C and M-class solar flares thereafter — plus all the other cosmic events going on and the energies from the universes! And yet more yikes! 😦   The solar flares are still ongoing as of this writing but no longer as intense though — thankfully — which is why I’m only now starting to ‘normalize!’ Yay! 🙂 Click here if you want to read about how solar flares are affecting us.

Image Source: ©2011-2014 Alex Shadagishvili

Image Source: ©2011-2014 Alex Shadagishvili

I’m also only now accessing this blog site. I haven’t had any internet access while I was recovering the past few days. That was quite a breather and a form of detox as well! 😉

And it surely warmed my heart to have been welcomed by the ‘likes’ and comments in my last post — particularly from those who simply held space for me. What a treasured gift… a healing balm for my weary mind, body and spirit! ⭐

I’ve shared in a recent post how we have been programmed to come quickly to the rescue when someone is in need. We overlook the fact that, often, all that a person needs is our loving presence.

judge and begrudge

criticize or give unsolicited advice

analyze, rationalize, intellectualize

question or offer an uncalled for opinion 

creating even so much more confusion

spiritualize in an attempt to appear wise

how often do we do these

when someone is going through a crisis?

how about offering our Loving Presence instead?

wouldn’t that be what it means to be a true friend?

And those who have offered their Loving Presence and held space for me have been a true friend indeed as I go through these tough times of transition and shifts. Thank you for the support and the love, for the listening — and not the unsolicited advising! 😉 Thank you for allowing me to be me — for allowing me to simply be.

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“Cradle of Love” Image Source: © Bright Creations, Nancy Bright

And I was moved to write this post and share the article below from the DailyOM as my way of thanking those who have been my container. The article is so fitting to what I’ve been going through and talks about what I so need. Actually, it is what all those going through a challenge and difficulty so needs. Thank you for giving it to me!

We have all been called upon at one time or another to help a loved one through a difficult time. When the help required consists of concrete actions, such as running errands or making phone calls, we know what to do. But sometimes we are called simply to hold space for the person as they go through whatever they need to go through. They may need to express anger or grief; they may need to talk or be silent. They may need us to hold their hand; they may need us to give them time alone. Whatever the case, when we hold space for someone, we offer ourselves up as a container for the overwhelming feelings they may be encountering due to their circumstances.

When we offer ourselves in this way, the more centered and grounded we are, the better. Our steadiness allows our companion to lean into us for support, as our presence provides an environment in which they can be free to move. We can also help by being responsive, allowing them to dictate the flow of action from talking to not talking, from anger to grief, and back again. By being aware and open, we can help them confront their feelings when that feels right, and back off from them when they need a break. Holding space requires humility, conscientiousness, and the ability to step out of the way, to honestly understand that this is not about us.

When we love someone in this way, we provide a space in which they can simply be.  Able to feel what they need to feel without worrying about how they are being perceived. We can provide this offering in person, over the phone, or even from a distance, through meditation. However we do it, when we hold space for someone in need, we are offering a gift of the highest nature.”

And you most certainly have offered me “a gift of the highest nature.” You have been my container. You have lovingly held space for me. ⭐

To hold space is to rest in the chaos that is darkness; a darkness that represents a vast field of unknown potential. It is this field that you are inviting to hum. From this field, understanding will blossom, light will emerge, possibilities will grow.

~ Chris Corrigan, author of The Tao Of Holding Space

And whatever way you choose to celebrate the holidays — if you do celebrate any — and whatever that holiday to you may be…

May it be joyous and joy-filled, purposeful and blissful!

And may we be Loving Containers for each other, offering the gift of our Divine Presence, regardless of the season and even if for no reason!

Lots of love and big hugs to you!

Blessed be.

😀 ⭐ ❤ ⭐ 😀

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About NadineMarie (Aligning With Truth)

I find much joy & fulfillment in sharing my experiences & insights through writing & blogging. I created the site, ALIGNING WITH TRUTH as a virtual center for healing where I share my thoughts & reflections, as well as the tools & resources that are helping me as I move along the path of awakening & coming home to the Self. As I live in joy & align with Truth, I AM shining my Light which is how I contribute to the planetary & humanity ascension. Brightest & Magical Blessings!!! Om Shanti. Namaste...💗💖💜Nadine Marie💜💖💗
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