If You Put Your Head in a Lion’s Mouth by Jennifer Hoffman

I seldom publish other peoples’ blogs and articles — just because. I probably ought to, as there have been several posts that gave me many aha moments.

Here’s one from Jennifer Hoffman whose Facebook page is one of my favorites. In it, she shares her own personal experiences and journey, instead of merely preaching — as many spiritual teachers and authors do, which I strongly detest.

I’ve shared quite a bit in this site about deception, deceit, betrayal, and manipulation and how these energies have been coming up for my clearing, most especially this year. Through these situations and encounters, the Universe is giving me the opportunity to master the skill of discernment — how to deal with such energies, when to walk away, and what to make of them. Jennifer expounds on these below.


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If you put your head in a lion’s mouth, will it bite you? That depends on whether the lion is tame or not, has already eaten and isn’t hungry, or is a circus lion trained to let people do that. Even with a trained lion, I’m sure that the person who sticks their head in its mouth must have a moment of fear. This isn’t a silly question because we do this all of the time, when we get involved with our karmic partners, set ourselves up for our shared lessons and then challenge them to not bite off our heads.

Usually we get away with our heads still attached but may suffer from other traumas, including the disappointment we feel when someone repeats past behavior, even though we give them every opportunity not to. Think of how many ways we let others know that we love and value them and mean them no harm, and they respond by biting off our heads. Who is wrong here, us for trusting someone in ways they cannot be trusted, or them for not acknowledging our efforts and responding accordingly?

I will make what may be an unpopular comment here — when we don’t honor others’ truth we are being disrespectful and manipulative, no matter what that truth is. When we don’t believe that someone chooses to be cruel, deceptive, and dishonest and try to change their behavior, we are not honoring who they are. We don’t try to make nice people mean, so why do we try to make mean people nice? Both of them are speaking and acting through their truth and we need to respect that truth.

I’m not condoning the behavior of people who are cruel, deceptive, and dishonest, just saying that dealing with them in any way other than one that knows we’re putting our head in the mouth of a lion who is known to bite is setting ourselves up for a big disappointment and potentially a considerable amount of pain. What are our options:

  1. Avoid the lion — it isn’t necessary to get involved with people you know will hurt you and you probably aren’t going to make them change, no matter how honorable your intentions are. You may even annoy them enough to create a situation that results in more pain for you. If you have already been bitten once, it’s best to avoid the lion.
  1. Wait until the lion invites you to stick your head in its mouth — When we try to change people before they acknowledge that they are considering or want to change, we are dishonoring them, no matter how kind and well meaning our efforts are. Unless someone truly wants to change, any effort to change them will be met with understandable resistance and rejection. If and when they are ready, they will find you and that’s when they see you doing something they want to do, or having something they want to learn how to create in their life.
  1. See the Divine, Deal with the Human: This is one of my favorite messages, which you can read here. While we can acknowledge the divine in everyone (and it is there), we have to connect to them through how they are choosing to express their divinity. No matter how much we think some people could be, act, or do things differently, and no matter how much divine energy they possess, it is the way they are expressing this energy through their human side that is the true barometer of their being. When we acknowledge that to decide whether it’s safe to approach and connect with them, much less put our heads in their mouth, we are honoring their humanity, and accepting how they are choosing to use their energy. We honor others by seeing them as they choose to be, not how we want them to be or think they are capable of becoming.

It isn’t our job to change or to heal others. It is our job to change ourselves and to become a source of inspiration and healed, whole living for others to choose for themselves. People will be more inspired by sources of joy, love, abundance, and success than by being told what they are capable of if they tried harder, or if they changed in some way. None of us knows what someone’s Source Contract is for a lifetime, so we cannot judge what they are doing or being because what we think is the least spiritual behavior we have ever seen may be their greatest leap in understanding and transformation.

One of our greatest lessons is non-judgment and compassionate acceptance, which requires us to refrain from judging others and to decide whether we will connect with someone, based on our energy, than to decide that they are doing something wrong because their behavior doesn’t meet our expectations of what we think their behavior could be.

Avoiding the lion is always an option and if that isn’t possible, make sure that it doesn’t have a reputation for biting before you stick your head in its mouth.

Copyright (c) 2014 by Jennifer Hoffman.

This article originally appeared here.

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I find much joy & fulfillment in sharing my experiences & insights through writing & blogging. I created the site, ALIGNING WITH TRUTH as a virtual center for healing where I share my thoughts & reflections, as well as the tools & resources that are helping me as I move along the path of awakening & coming home to the Self. As I live in joy & align with Truth, I AM shining my Light which is how I contribute to the planetary & humanity ascension. Blessed be. Namaste...💗💖💜Nadine Marie💜💖💗
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4 Responses to If You Put Your Head in a Lion’s Mouth by Jennifer Hoffman

  1. yogaleigh says:

    I’m gonna remember this so I can link to it when I do my holiday posts on getting along. I always do one on Huna teacher Serge King’s teaching: People are who they are and they do what they do. If you learn who somebody is you know what to expect and can decide how to cope.

    Kind of the same message in different words. I really like the way she explained it. Thanks for sharing.

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    • You’re most welcome Leigh. Thank you too for sharing the Huna teaching. I need these reminders that when I encounter energies that are not in alignment with mine and I choose to walk away, I need to do so in and with Love.

      Being one who can be too hard on one’s self, I also need to remind myself that when I walk away, I may not always be in that state of Love right away. There may be judgments — and that’s ok. I can take steps towards shifting those judgments and later, eventually be in a state of ‘compassionate acceptance,’ as Jennifer puts it. Of course, the goal is to be without judgments but hey, I’m on a journey of having a human experience, and judgments come with the territory! 🙂

      Thanks again Leigh for the visit. Infinite Blessings…Namaste.

      ❤ ❤ ❤ NadineMarie ❤ ❤ ❤

      PS. Your holiday posts with a link to this — oh this post would surely come in handy! 🙂

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  2. This quote from your post, “It isn’t our job to change or to heal others. It is our job to change ourselves and to become a source of inspiration and healed, whole living for others to choose for themselves,” reminds me of the following from the book “The Devine Matrix” by Gregg Bradon:

    “If we want something to change, we have to break the cycle and give the Matrix something different to reflect. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? It may be deceptively simple, since changing the way we see ourselves is probably the most difficult practice that we’ll ever be faced with in our lives. Because of our inner beliefs, we experience in our outer world the grand battle that’s playing out within the hearts and minds of every person alive – the struggle that defines who we believe we are. In the presence of all the reasons not to trust, we’re asked to find a way out of the prison that our fears locks us into.”

    Yes, our job is to heal ourselves; not trying to fix other people. Kind of like what they say when you get on an airplane and they give you the safety instructions. If the oxygen masks come down, you don’t try to put them on other people first. You put on your own oxygen mask first. Then you can help other people.

    Thanks Nadine for the reminder,
    Mike

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    • You’re most welcome Mike. Thank you for that quote from Greg — love that book myself! 🙂

      “Healer, heal thyself.” Pretty much the message of Chiron, the Wounded Healer. I’ve also discovered that, not only are there a lot of people who help others heal instead of or before they have even begun a deep and effective process of healing themselves, they go about fixing others, in the guise of ‘helping’ or ‘being of service.’ Unconsciously, they are actually filling in an inner void. I have actually been gathering my thoughts around this topic for my next post.

      Thank you for that airplane safety instructions example. Isn’t it? It’s a simple illustration and something that many can relate to. I may even include it in my post. I will also remind myself to use it in my conversations. Hopefully, they will get the point that I’m making.

      Thank you Mike for your visit and for sharing your own reflections here. Infinite Blessings…Namaste.
      ❤ ❤ ❤ NadineMarie ❤ ❤ ❤

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