I AM 52, A Crone, and Damn Proud Of It!

“I can’t wait to turn 52!” is something that wouldn’t have come from me during my teenage years. I don’t think any other average teenager would also have included that in their list of wishes and dreams. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.

To be 50 is old. A granny. Grumpy. A grouch. To be a golden girl is something to be dreaded. Ashamed of. Embarrassed about. Ridiculed and shamed for. Denied. Avoided to be talked about or thought of.

That’s how I was raised. That’s how the majority of humanity was raised.

We live in a world that, sadly, values youthfulness as if it’s the end all and be all.

“What’s the secret to looking young?”  The most sought after mystery question that we’ve been programmed to find the answer for incessantly. And when we do find it, whatever “it” is — that’s reason for celebration. A major achievement — most especially for us women.

I have learned though, from my own personal experience and those of others that, it isn’t just so much about what food diet one follows or what one’s physical exercise regime is — although they’re surely essential to one’s well-being.

Rather, it’s a way of life. An approach to life. An integrated approach that balances the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects. A rich inner life — one lived from the level of the soul, enriched by the trials and tribulations, adversities and difficulties — all of which are merely blessings in disguise and which are essential to one’s soul evolution. A way of living guided by one’s own inner voice and authority and connection to Source, you know, Aligning With Truth.

“You don’t look your age. What is your secret?”

I get that a lot. I unhesitatingly and proudly divulge my age. (I’ve never kept my age a secret or felt offended being asked. The saying, “Never ask a woman her age because it’s impolite” never applied to me, thankfully.) Then, they’d think I’m only kidding when I tell them my age. And why would I make myself older? What would I get out of it? How would that serve me?

It’s a conversation that I often find myself in. A conversation that certainly brings a smile to my face. A conversation that, admittedly, makes my ego want to party! 🙂

Those who ask usually expect me to then rattle off what food I eat (or don’t), what exercise I do, what beauty product I put on my face. You know, everything that’s focused only on the physical.

Ahhh…To be limited to the physical aspect, to give priority to it, to view the physical as what’s most important — it’s how the world is, sadly.

Yet, I will not deny that I’m pleased with what I see when I look at the mirror — full length or up close. Very pleased! 😉

However, I am equally, if not more pleased that, whatever or whoever greets me back is physical proof that, everything I had been doing (and undoing) over the years, be it at the physical, mental, emotional or spiritual aspect of my life — it’s definitely working!

All the fully packed and excessive mental and emotional baggage that I had been tagging along, together with the heavy backpacks that I had been carrying which I have been releasing and clearing…

All the cleansing and healing, the letting go and surrendering, trusting, believing….

All my pivotal experiences and crucial moments leading to my Chiron Return

The time I’ve spent doing all these were years well spent and purposefully lived.  A period of getting clarity and gaining insights and wisdom. The time leading up to my Cronehood. Wise Womanhood.

cronesdontwhineIn Crones Don’t Whine: Concentrated Wisdom for Juicy Women, author Jean Shinoda Bolen wrote that, in Native American tradition, a woman is officially considered an Elder when she turns 52.

Ahhhh….

To be 52, and a woman at that, in our current society (aka Old Earth which, thankfully, is shifting and transitioning)…

To be an empowered 52-year-old woman, a full-fledged Crone, an Elder…

To announce it to the world, without any qualms and apprehensions, to the world that favors being “young” and dreads getting “old” and relegates the elderly to the background, to the world that thinks that the “secret” to youthfulness is a combination simply of one’s diet, exercise and “beauty” product, or that looking young is what defines a woman…

To celebrate age and aging and to honor women of age

To claim my Cronehood and to be truly proud of it

It is quite a rarity. There aren’t that many members of the minority tribe of Crones and Wise Women.

And I AM a proud member of such a tribe. Officially, this month of May. Woo-hoo! 🙂

Any other fellow proud members?

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About NadineMarie (Aligning With Truth)

I find much joy & fulfillment in sharing my experiences & insights through writing & blogging. I created the site, ALIGNING WITH TRUTH as a virtual center for healing, where I share my thoughts and reflections, as well as the tools & resources that are helping me as I move along the path of awakening & coming home to the Self. As I live in joy & align with Truth, I AM shining my light which is how I contribute to the planetary & humanity ascension. Blessed be. Namaste...♥♥♥Nadine Marie♥♥♥
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8 Responses to I AM 52, A Crone, and Damn Proud Of It!

  1. I couldn’t agree with you more! I give people my age without a second thought. I’m proud to have survived and still be able to enjoy life. I love my wrinkles! Character is everything. Happy Birthday!

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  2. I’m 64 and proud of it also – necessarily because others tell me I don’t look my age also – but because all I’ve dared to explore just as is true for you Blessings, Love and Sparkles! Brenda

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    • You’re 64, I’m 52… At the end of the day, they’re truly all just numbers, right? Doesn’t really mean anything. 🙂

      Many have commented that, perhaps the reason I’m proud of my age is because I don’t look it. True, but I also tell them that, it is precisely why I don’t look my age — it’s because I never had any issues around age or aging. Didn’t bother me, didn’t worry me, even back in my much younger and so unawakened years.

      Oh and yes, we truly are daredevils Brenda, not in a careless but carefree way! 🙂 There’s a huge difference. Years of experience and my Inner Crone taught me that! 🙂 And I’m sure, you too, also already know that.

      You’ve been an inspiration and guiding Light Brenda — to me and to many of us. Thank you for the Light that you carry and the Joy that you bring dear sister. Let’s continue to dare to explore and may our tribe increase! 🙂

      Much Love & Sparkles to you as well!!!

      ❤ ❤ ❤ NadineMarie ❤ ❤ ❤

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  3. The age of the Sage and stepping into the Wise Woman role! The Golden Girls still had 20 or 30 years on us … wonderful wise crone examples (and there are quite a few, lucky for us). It’s an exciting time. Feeling that sense of ‘earned wisdom’ … gravitas? I turned 51 this past February and feel like I earned every minute, every wrinkle, every silver hair. With that, comes lots to share. 🙂 Happy belated birthday!

    Blessings,
    Jamie

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  4. ‘Earned wisdom” — that’s it! 🙂 Thanks for that. I most certainly have earned every bit and piece of me.

    A most exciting time indeed Jamie! 🙂 Thanks for the greeting and ditto!

    Here’s to sage-ing and sharing! Much Love & Infinite Blessings to you sister dear!!!
    ❤ ❤ ❤ NadineMarie ❤ ❤ ❤

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