“There is a great misunderstanding about the writing process. Many believe that you have to feel good to write. This is not true. Some of the best writing comes when we are deeply uncomfortable or in pain. This is because the pain is greater than our ego’s ability to suppress the truth of the soul.”
This post from the facebook page of The Writer’s Salon caught my attention this morning. I commented, “I also realized that part of why I don’t want to write/blog about my pain is people prefer and like to read about the ‘good stuff’ only, none of the ‘negative’ stories or experiences.”
I’ve accumulated a lot of draft posts over the past several months. Some of them from even more than a year ago.
One reason why I haven’t gone back to do the final editing and posting is my limiting and false belief of what makes a post “uplifting,” “inspiring,” “healing.” A couple of months ago, I already alluded to this and posted about it here.
I certainly have come a long way from when I started this blog which is one month short of its second anniversary. Back then, I was playing it safe, writing more about general topics and experiences. Those that were, or I thought were the only ones that are considered uplifting and inspiring.
Stifling my creativity
A laryngitis last year made me realize that I was gagging myself. I was stifling my creative energies which I wrote about here. And I’ve since blogged about more personal, more intimate experiences, my inner turmoil and conflicts — what I consider the “good stuff.”
With all the crises, tragedies, “negativity” happening in our world, sure I also like to hear and read about stories that are “uplifting” and “empowering.”
Yet there is also so much inspiration and healing that comes from some of our most tragic experiences and painful emotions. There is always a gift behind every crisis.
And our growth comes from being able to transcend beyond the pain and uncovering the blessing lying underneath.
Yet this also comes not without initially sitting with the pain, allowing ourselves to go through and be with the experience, be with the pain, and then embracing and integrating it into our being.
And writing and blogging about the very experience of being in the pain, while still being unclear and unsure of what lies ahead, is as much healing, encouraging, and inspiring, as the stories or posts that talk about the “good stuff.” Those that at times, sometimes, often, sound to me more like fluff.
Sharing the human experience
When I write and share about my painful experiences or moments of doubt and confusion, there may be others who are either going through something similar, or have already gone through them. Others are able to relate. I feel connected; They feel connected. I feel less alone; They feel less alone. And it’s not about misery loving company. It’s about sharing the human experience — an experience which includes both the “good” and the “bad” stuff.
And the process per se of uncovering the gift, the lesson, the message of such seemingly “negative” experiences or emotions, and writing and sharing about it, blogging about the process itself can be inspiring and encouraging.
Then of course, comes the gift. The light at the end of the tunnel. The pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The silver lining behind the dark cloud. And again, writing and sharing about the found treasure, the “good stuff” is obviously an uplifting and inspiring article. Maybe one which might even be a more preferred reading material by others. Maybe.
And yet again, “Am I writing to impress or to express?”
Ahhh…the part of me that has the need for approval and appreciation. My wounded little Nadine seeking for the 5A’s that she didn’t receive. A core childhood wound that has come up for even deeper healing this year as I go through my Chiron Return.
Yet another reminder. A nudge. A moment to pause. To reflect. To get clarity.
To align with (my) truth.
What do you consider to be inspiring and uplifting posts?
(By the way, I am putting the words “good,” “bad,” and “negativity” in quotation marks because I also have a different concept of what those words mean. More about that in future posts.)
- Write Where You Are: Sourcing Blog Posts from Your Heart (http://cateartios.wordpress.com/)
- To publish or not to publish my post
- Giving myself a voice
- Are you giving yourself the 5A’s?
- Chiron Return: A return to my family and childhood wounding
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