Ever since I embraced the path of self-awareness and conscious creation, I have lost countless friends and loved ones. My strong desire to instigate change (in myself as well as others), my relentless attempt to challenge the status quo, questioning why things are how “bad” they are and why or how can they be another (“better”) way, just make a lot of people very uncomfortable, quite understandably.
Unknowingly, they resist any efforts for reform, to change, to grow, to break unhealthy habits and patterns, to heal. They get into defense mode.
The problem with you is you’re too honest. You need to learn to accept people and situations, otherwise, you’ll really be affected. This [the Philippines] isn’t the U.S. — this is Third World. If you can’t stand it, then leave. You should go to (name of another country/place that’s supposedly “worse off” or “more backward” than the Philippines) so you can appreciate Manila. You cannot expect people to think like you or agree with you — we’re all different. You’re just too much of a perfectionist and idealist — you have to learn to lower your standards. You’ve always had this tendency to want to save the world — you can’t. The list of comments and reactions goes on……
I’m not necessarily negating the validity of their suggestions or responses. There’s a reason for everything and there are reasons why things, people, places are the way they are.
But to turn the reasons into excuses for not striving for excellence is only truly a defense mechanism. It’s a resistance. Rather than face the mirror and think of how we can improve and make the world a better place to live in, or make ourselves better human beings or come closer to Source, people would rather be in their comfort zone.
But people don’t know that. They’re not aware of it. They’re not even aware that they’re not aware!
Not taking a step back and doing self-inquiry is like having a headache and automatically taking a headache pill. It temporarily gets rid of the migraine but it’s not addressing the emotional issue that’s causing it. Before long, you get another migraine attack. Until it gets chronic. And then it affects the rest of your entire system, and you experience all sorts of aches and pains. They don’t know that there are other solutions that can truly address the migraine issue other than merely taking a pill.
But we all are where we need to be. Much as I want other people to honor where I’m at and what my sentiments are, I am likewise doing the same to them.
I am reminding myself that I cannot expect a 4th or even 5th dimensional level of response, mentality and support from a 3D consciousness level. Otherwise, that’s really setting myself up for frustration.
Being a change agent isn’t a walk in the park. It is after all the path less travelled. And I’ve chosen it and I’ve come this far. And it isn’t a popularity contest. Never was, never will be. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.
Yet there’s no turning back. The road to recovery and conscious evolution takes only one direction: forward and onward.
The challenge and the lesson is to draw as deep as I can from my well-spring of compassion, and extend that to everyone. We’re all learning our earthly lessons. We’re operating from different dimensions of reality and having different levels of awareness. We’re at various stages in our awakening process.
In The 11 Karmic Spaces: Choosing Freedom From The Patterns That Bind You by Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati, Jean Houston, American author and philosopher and one of the pioneers of the human potentials movement, shared in the foreword a wonderful Sufi teaching story:
“A man was brokenhearted by all the suffering and sorrow he saw in the world. He sat by the roadside and began to beat the earth. He looked up and yelled at God, ‘Look at this mess. Look at all this pain. Look at all this killing and hatred. God, Oh God, why don’t you DO something!?’ And God said, ‘I did do something. I sent you.’”
Yes God, please help me and guide me to continue to do what I’ve come here to do.
Bhagavati, M.J. (2010). The 11 karmic spaces: Choosing freedom from the patterns that bind you.
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